Month: December 2016

A writer’s take on eating alone

Many people feel dispirited when they eat alone. At least half the fun of good food is sharing with friends or family or — anyone! Eating alone seems to be particularly difficult for those who are widowed or divorced, at least initially. For years your meals were sociable occasions, and it seems hard to adapt […]

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The big family get-together

Aaaahhh, it’s Christmas and in New Zealand that means a summer holiday, time to relax, preferably by a beach or pool. For some the holiday involves a big family gathering. We are a huge family and we love our occasional maxi-reunions, but not at Christmas. Then we drift off in different directions for smaller gatherings, which are seldom fraught. […]

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Writing heals: the story of Mrs D

Writing can heal. Some people discover this through therapy (or perhaps an online writing course like Write Over Divorce), and some people make it happen all by themselves. Lotta Dann was a wife-and-mother with a perfect life and a drinking problem. One day she decided privately, suddenly, independently, urgently, to stop drinking alcohol. She didn’t seek help or join AA or […]

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Poems hiding in the woods and under the bed

Hey, I write poems, you know. (Maybe you write poems too.) Somewhere a poet is cleaning a bathroom. Somewhere a cleaner is writing a poem. If you like this blog for any reason at all, you may well enjoy the poems on my other blog, Poems in the wild.  I adore having this outlet for poems […]

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When writers read: surreptitious analysis

Writing a book? Then read. Writing is an impeccable excuse for reading. And reading is a time-honoured strategy for improving your writing. Stephen King says: “If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot. If you don’t have the time to read, […]

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